Sunday, May 26, 2013

Don't Forget It, You'll Regret It, Mother Knows Best......Tangled(Only in this case it was father...)


I learned a valuable lesson yesterday. My grandpa and my dad used to both say that a day wasn’t a success unless you learn something new. I used to laugh at that when I was younger. I couldn’t imagine that when you get older that there was anything left for you to learn. As I have gotten older I have realized that it isn’t true. I do learn a little something every day.

Yesterday I learned to not jump to conclusions. When we did the walkthrough in the rental house it was a mess. There were holes in the walls, stains on the carpeting, and more. I assumed that the owner became overwhelmed in repairs. There were so many projects that were half assed I figured that was what happened.

Rule number one my dad taught me was never assume anything. He broke it down for me as “if you assume something you make an ass out of u and me.” It is true. It seems that he was overwhelmed. His wife died and he was left with three children. He didn’t want anything connected to her. He left all the things that reminded everyone of her in the garage and he couldn’t bring himself to come back to make repairs.

So twice in one day I was left to feel guilty. I first felt guilty for wanting to do physical harm to another and then I felt guilty because I assumed erroneously that the owner was either to lazy or overwhelmed to fix everything. I am so sorry for that. I hope that the family is able to heal and possibly able to return home someday. 

4 comments:

  1. Aw. That is so sad. Don't be too hard on yourself. You had no idea. You have been through the wringer and back. You have every right to feel the way you did. ((HUGS))) They are for you and your family and for the man and children who lost their mom and wife

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  2. You come to the conclusions you do with the information you have at the time. Now that you have the full picture, you have redrawn the conclusion. No harm, no foul.

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